Monday, December 10, 2012

License To Stare

I had lunch with two cops today. Wade and his partner Michele.

Who knew carrying a gun and a badge was license to stare at everyone that walked by. It was funny to watch and now I'm just jealous that I don't have those things so I can stare without feeling guilty. Haha

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Moving Forward

On Monday night, Wade and the girls drove down from Hemet. When I told Tuesday they were coming she panicked. Tuesday lives in a constant state of disaster. I close my eyes to it, it's the only way I stay sane. So, she ran to go clean her room and then she had the nerve to tell me to start cleaning up too! Haha. I did clean the bathroom though. Not because she told me to but because it was already on my list of things to do that day.

This is the first time Wade's girls had been to my house. Rylee walked in and said, "I love your house, it smells so good!". That cracks me up because her mom is a Scentsy person just like me. Maybe we don't like the same scents. Who knows.

The girls hung out in Tuesday's freshly cleaned room and played with the hamsters. Walter is the best one and got the most attention. We ate pizza and drove down to Seaside to drive through the lights. It's still early down there are not everyone has their lights up yet but, it was still nice and it was fun to show Emma and Rylee.

We introduced the girls to Mom and Dad as well. They did well. I was a little worried that my dad would scare them but, he didn't. Emma, who is super shy, was funny. Mom asked how old she was and when she said SEVEN, Wade and I tried to convince her that she was EIGHT. Oops! She's seven.

It was a fun night. It was fun to have the girls here. Can't wait until they come back for Tamale Day.
Monday, December 3, 2012

I'm Turning Into My Mother......

and I'm not sorry one bit.

It occurred to me just last night. Wade and I went to dinner on his Dancing With The Stars winnings (don't ask) and he was teasing me, he knew something and wouldn't tell me what he knew. I started giggling and couldn't stop. Just like my mom. I think it's so funny when she does that and here I am giggling up a storm in Olive Garden and as it's happening I'm thinking in my head, "The Woman does this. I've seen her do this." and an image of my mother giggling pops in my head.

I promise you, it was funny and I'm thankful no one was there to see me but Wade
Monday, November 26, 2012

Thanksgiving Holiday

Wade and Toni Thanksgiving 2012

Well, Thanksgiving has come and gone. We had a lovely dinner with family and friends. Tuesday and Travis had fun with their cousins. I finished Alynna's dinner so she could have dessert like I would do for any of the Saavedra Kid's. Thank the Lord Jesus that it was only Alynna that needed saving from the dinner table because I was so full, it was all I had in me to eat what was on her plate before anyone noticed what I was doing. Haha.

As predicted, I was so happy to spend the day with Wade. The day was as perfect as it could be and I was happy.

On Friday, the kids and I made our way out to Hemet for the weekend. We ate leftover turkey all weekend long and apple pie from Costco that was leftover too.

It makes me happy that all the kids get along so well. And so do the dogs. Wade's daughters have a little poodle/spaniel named Nellie. She's sweet and I love her. The kids played together, watched Travis play the Playstation, rode skateboards and roller skates, played on the computer, etc. 

On Sunday we went Geocaching. It's this fun treasure hunt by GPS type thing.  It was funny, really. At one point we were in an empty parking lot holding our cell phones to trees. I wish I had a picture of it but, Emma was running around with my phone. We looked for five caches and found three. Not bad. It was fun and I'm sure we will do it again.

We came back to Torrance last night ready to get back to the grind.
Monday, November 19, 2012

The Road to Thanksgiving.....

I've decided that blogging is a lot harder to keep up with now that my life has changed. I work stupid retail hours and by the time I come home, there is just no way. Don't tell the folks at work but, I'm pretty sure my Halloween post was composed and posted while sitting at my desk one very slow day.

I long for the days of staying home and being a housewife. Taking care of my family is truly my joy and I believe was my calling. Maybe I just need a vacation, I don't know. I work only two days this week and I am looking forward to spending it with my family and enjoying Thanksgiving in "My New Normal".

This morning, Wade was curious why this Thanksgiving was going to be so different from the others. He has no idea how nice it will be to have a partner who is happy to be enjoying the day with people we both like and want to converse with. A partner who will sit and eat by my side and not expect me to cater to their every whim. A partner who will engage others in conversation instead of sit and eat in silence or not be in the room eating at all. A partner who will not disappear as soon as they're done eating. I really could go on and on.

It's sad when I think about all the years that I "let" that happen. And when asked why, my only response was, "it was easier to let him do whatever than to ruin my day by fighting with him". And to his face, I would alway say that, it was fine or I didn't care what he did but really, I missed having a partner.

In Wade, I have a partner. An equal. And because of that, this will be a different and better Thanksgiving that I am really looking forward to.

Have you met Wade, yet? Allow me to introduce you.

This is Wade. He's divorced with two girls, ages 12 and 8. He lives in Hemet and he has a pool. Haha  That used to be Tuesday's favorite part about him until she found out he had a 12 year old daughter. The girls get along very well. Travis and Wade get along great and they have almost more in common than Wade and I do. We've got a nice little routine going right now and I'm very happy.

Hopefully, I can get off my behind and take more pictures. I want to be able to share this. To share my happiness with you.
Monday, November 5, 2012

Halloween 2012

This is Tuesday and her girls on Halloween. They're dressed as "Things". Don't ask, I really don't know. All I know is that Mom did an amazing job of helping Tuesday put her outfit together. I was told/asked to buy the T-shirt for her costume. It was $29.99 on eBay and with tax and shipping it was really almost $40. Umm, no way. Proud of myself, I found that "Thing 3" iron-on on eBay for $4.99! Yay me!

I had to work and so Tuesday gladly went to her friends house to Trick or Treat with her "Thing" friends. She had a great time and brought home so much candy. Yay me again! Haha

Travis on the other hand.........
I came home from work to find him and his "brother", Ethan gearing up to scare children. They sat on the porch and watched costumed children grab candy out of our bowl and yelling at them when they took more than one. They had a good time and when Tuesday came home she joined them on the porch too. I went to bed and they hung out for a little while longer, just the three of them.

It was different but, the kids had a good time and that's what's most important to me.

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

The New Normal

Hi there!  I've decided that instead of continuing on with Ebersole. Party of Six, I would move on and start a new blog.

My life is changing......has changed. A lot. Tim and I are divorcing. Tim, Tyler, and Trevor moved out and the boys no longer speak to me. I am very sad about that and I don't think I'll ever truly get over it. I can no longer hear their voices in my head and that makes me cry every time I think about it. I know that this is their decision and I've always respected my kids decissions and I will respect this one as well. I've accepted. It's not always easy though. I hope that they are happy in their new life and that they find joy. I wish I could remind them that no matter what, I am their mother and will be here for them no matter what, when, or where.

Travis and Tuesday elected to stay with me. I can't begin to express how grateful I am for that. there is no real custody order and there won't be as long as I can help it. I want all the kids to be able to decide how they would like to continue their relationships with Tim and I. I encourage Travis and Tuesday to see and talk to their dad as much as they'd like and I don't pry into their business in that regard. I will ask, "Have you talked to your dad lately?" and give the a "great" or "you should" whenever I need to. I hope that I am doing a good job with that. I am just so lost but this is the way Travis and Tuesday want it and I will support them in it.

Sadly, the relationship between Tim and I did not go well after I asked for a divorce and there is an order in place that prevents us from communicating. It was for the best at the time and I think it will continue to serve its purpose for a while but, I hope that one day we can communicate like two people that have four children in common and want to work towards their greater good. Thant would be ideal and that is my hope.

That's all I can muster for now.