Friendless in Hemet

Sounds like the signature line in a Dear Abby column. Haha. I moved here a year ago and have yet to make any friends. I have a few acquaintances but no real friends. 

It makes a ton of sense why. In Torrance, I was part of a huge baseball community. My friends were fellow baseball parents. We had a huge thing in common and I loved every minute of it. I had other mom friends that I could hang out with durning the day while our husbands were working. We did breakfast, lunch, and shopping trips. And then we'd sit together at games or be stuck in the snack bar watching our boys play. Good times. 

I met my best friend through baseball. I even met my wonderful husband thanks to her. I started off buying a few bars of Scentsy from her and a few years later, married her cousin. Best friendship made through baseball ever!

But, you see the continuous thread, right? Baseball. 

In Hemet, there's baseball but, I don't have a participant. Tuesday is a school and her friends kind of girl. There's no extra curricular activities. No opportunity for me to be stuck on the sidelines meeting other moms. I never thought about it, that an activity would be the way to making friends. It just never occurred to me.

Now, I know there are ways to make friends. Volunteer at school, join any number of groups, etc. But, I've done my prison sentence at school and I hate groups. Some circumstances make me leary of trusting new people in this town. I don't know who is friends with who and who to trust. It's hard. I want to like people. Well, some people, let's not get all crazy here. 

Don't get me wrong, I'm not already trying to replace Wade. Not at all. We do everything together and I love every moment of it. Our weekends are spent doing projects and being completely lazy. It's the best life ever. It's the time that he's gone that I feel alone here. I just wish I could find a cool chick to hang out with once in a while. Someone with a common sense of humor, dislike of stupid people, and a love of Starbucks. Because seriously, I've gotta go to Starbucks enough this year to keep my Gold Card status!

Oh well, let's make that my mission for 2014. Make at least one breakfast, lunch, shopping, or coffee friend that doesn't exhaust me. Yay!